tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7050548055830289666.post6206579335463246625..comments2023-05-13T06:20:55.898-04:00Comments on Actively Arielle: A Voice With A Commitment: Struggling with Growing UpArielle Bair, MSW, LSWhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05087215272280856919noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7050548055830289666.post-850796166072495182010-08-08T12:02:43.867-04:002010-08-08T12:02:43.867-04:00I agree with saying that adulthood seems out of yo...I agree with saying that adulthood seems out of your comfort zone. I think my dad stopping seeing me at 13 cued mine - I didn't know how to act without him so got stupidly anxious about everything. <br /><br />I don't really admit it, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7050548055830289666.post-80871506224461034152010-07-22T17:19:16.381-04:002010-07-22T17:19:16.381-04:00I feel just like M.
I can't stand the fact I c...I feel just like M.<br />I can't stand the fact I could weight more than right now, even if my friends say I'd look so much better if I'll gain some weight.<br />I know they are true, I agree with them. With my head - I know. But with my feelings, there's something wrong. All the gaining of weight I had in the past (and I have to admit that they were not so big gain of weight...) lead me to the worst relapse in anorexia.<br />So, I feel like I am sitting in the middle waiting: I have the minimum weight that I need to be healthy (to have the cycle and so on), but I'm quite scared ar rhe idea to gain more weight even if I know if I do I'll be better.<br />Maybe the main problem is that I'm still not sure I want to be better.<br />And that's the worst thing.Kianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7050548055830289666.post-36159656539228590082010-07-21T16:04:03.193-04:002010-07-21T16:04:03.193-04:00M- It's like Soledad says. Curves don't me...M- It's like Soledad says. Curves don't mean you jiggle. A lot of what we feel is in our heads - especially when we are struggling. We're our own worst critics. I weigh more than 25 pounds more than I used to and I used to feel absolutely sick thinking about breasts and hips and other curves. I thought it would never look or feel right on my body. But I was wrong. I like the way I look a lot. It took some getting used to, definitely, but that is all part of the recovery process. Don't let the fear hold you back. You're missing out. Hang in there.Arielle Bair, MSW, LSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05087215272280856919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7050548055830289666.post-26365583288473645232010-07-21T13:28:53.017-04:002010-07-21T13:28:53.017-04:00^^you don´t necesarilly have to "jiggle"...^^you don´t necesarilly have to "jiggle" if you have hips, M...I have hips and they don´t jiggle, lol! I used to think like you, that I HAD to be slender, that it was ok for other people to gain weight(normal weight) but that it didn´t apply to me, I was terrified of gaining weight....and then I finally did, and you know what? Absolutely nothing happened! In fact, now I think what I must have looked like weighing so much less, I can´t imagine myself like that, and I thought I looked fine.<br />But like with everything else, it´s something inside you that has to "click", so you won´t feel like that anymore about gaining curves.<br /><br />;)<br /><br />Love, Soledad.sol123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7050548055830289666.post-19412128300045753442010-07-21T10:06:56.079-04:002010-07-21T10:06:56.079-04:00For me, the main qualm I have about growing up is ...For me, the main qualm I have about growing up is gaining curves. I don't fear responsibility. I relish the challenge of higher education, the workforce, and other emotional battles. But for some reason, the awkwardness of soft and curvy hips is something I cannot stand to have. They are fine on other people, but I feel the need to remain slender, trim, and defined. I don't like the notion of jiggling when I walk, and I'm not really sure what to do about it. How do you cope with that?Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10903128501903534645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7050548055830289666.post-72461037546608441682010-07-19T15:54:15.937-04:002010-07-19T15:54:15.937-04:00I think that growing old shouldn't be a bad th...I think that growing old shouldn't be a bad thing. A lot of people grow old gracefully and, like a fine wine, they only get better with age. Immature as I may be, I like the concept of maturing so that I can overcome those feelings of growing old, rejecting responsibility, or being alone.<br /><br />I only want to say to the reader who made this question that you should be looking ahead and saying to yourself, "Damn, I've still a long way to go". Having that perception of time mentally eases the process of aging so you don't feel so isolated when you finally realise that you are of old age. A lot - and I really mean A LOT - can be accomplished in 60 years. You could do anything you please. Is that not motivation enough to grow up?Veggiehttp://www.youtube.com/user/VeggieAnynoreply@blogger.com