Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Filling the Space the Eating Disorder Filled

This week's video is about emotions, recovery, and what to do when you're recovering and finally have some empty space where the eating disorder used to be!


Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for this post. When I first entered recovery, I was working full time and in grad school. Now that I've graduated, I've been struggling again, and I didn't really know why. I realize now though that I'm using my behaviors to fill the time.

How did you discover what it was you actually enjoy, hobbies etc? Or were you able to go back what you did before your anorexia took hold?
(Guess I'm just having trouble finding something to fill my time. I've been struggling for ten years, I can hardly remember enjoying anything...)

Arielle Bair (Becker) said...

That's an excellent question, Sara. Do you have an email address where I could send you a detailed response? If so, leave it here in the comments or shoot me an email (link on sidebar of the blog) and I will get back to you. :)

Amy said...

I had some ED thoughts/behaviors before getting married, but fell into full blown anorexia in the first 2 years of my marriage. Sometimes, I can't believe we made it through that horrible time. Now that I am working on recovery and so much better, we are so close and so strong. However, I look back on my sickest time and I feel sad that I was so mean and awful to my husband. He had no idea what was going on and was so confused about who I was and who he had married. I have now been working on my recovery for 2 years and will be married for 4 years in April. I am finding out who I am and who I am in my marriage. Through it all, my husband has been there and I honestly am the luckiest woman to have ended up with him.

It's hard work, and it is so frustrating, yet I wouldn't change a thing. I have learned so much about myself through my recovery. I try to remind myself of this when I'm sitting in the doctor's office waiting to get weighed and thinking about all the other things I could be doing with my time! A big struggle for me right now is finding things I enjoy doing to replace my ED behaviors and thoughts....it's hard!

Thank you for this video. It is so relevant to where I am right now.

Sarah Robertson said...

Great video and amazing food for though Arielle.

Always inspiring. xx

Arielle Bair (Becker) said...

Thank YOU, Amy, for sharing. I wish you the best of luck and a continued happy marriage. :)

Anonymous said...

I m still in recovery but am working on this issue. I have thoughts about volunteer work,taking an art class,maybe a college class. Yet I lack motivation to do this. I am under the care of a psychiatrist but just feel so uncomfortable in recovery since I am actually doing it 100 percent.
I know though for a happy life one needs to find interests. Did or does anyone have motivation and maybe fears I guess issues?