Tuesday, January 20, 2009
What have you outgrown (not in a physical sense, unless that's somehow relevant)? Think on it. You are still allowed to MISS what you've outgrown, but that doesn't change the fact that you've outgrown it.
On that note, what DON'T you miss? Use that as a force to push you in a better, more positive direction. We all have memories of days, months, and even years we'd rather forget. Perhaps you'd like to wash away some recollection of pain or misery? The thing is, in NOT forgetting about it, we become stronger people. So, don't erase. Instead, remember. And then ask yourself, "Why don't I miss that?" And use it like a tool to propel yourself forward.
What aren't you quite ready for? Be honest with yourself. It's okay to realize you're not exactly ready for everything all at once. Not many of us are. It can still be a tangible goal, whatever it is you're not quite ready for--because you just have to tell yourself: I'm not ready for it YET.
And finally, when all these questions have been asked and perhaps re-asked, ask the most important question of all: What are you looking forward to?
What are you waiting for? I can't answer that FOR you! :)
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
The daily reminder?
"I like myself."
Yes. That's what my phone tells me to remember.
Sometimes we all need reminding. I hear you--you're saying, "But I don't like myself." Well, if you don't like yourself yet, just wait. A few weeks of seeing that daily message and it might start to sink in.
Monday, January 12, 2009
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
"It's just another day, dear," he said. My husband, that is. He was referring to the New Year—the first day of 2009 that everyone makes such a big deal about—awaiting its arrival at midnight like it's some terribly consequential moment. Truth is, it's not. It's a cause for celebration, sure. It's a day that will never come again, yes. But, as my husband said, it's just another day.
There I was, putting so much emphasis on the new year, acting as if it was some powerful force—something more powerful than I am. Though I sort of brushed aside the comment "It's just another day, dear" at the time, I've actually been thinking about it a lot recently…pondering it and grasping its meaning.
The new year is what we make it and yes, resolutions are great to have. They keep us on track. They keep us putting our best foot forward. But what are New Year's resolutions really? They're regular goals, that's what. You can make a resolution on January 1st or you can make one on June 25th—it's still a resolution.
Sometimes the new year can be triggering. It can bring up memories we'd rather forget. It can cause us to reflect and feel disappointed in ourselves. It can also be very scary; it's a fresh year we don't want to mess up—how can that possibly NOT make us a little afraid?
First things first: Your goals are YOURS and no one else's. Remember that. Don't let what other people think or feel influence your lack of confidence in yourself.
Second: Think of the new year as a blank page upon which to write down all your hopes and plans. Don't think of it as a problem to overcome.
Third: Don't don't don't think of the new year as something huge. It's not. It's "just another day." It's just another year of days that we can live through in the best way we know how.
Cheers to you!