Monday, January 12, 2009

Q & A for a Rocky Road

Question: What's the mentality of a person who wants recovery?

Answer: The mentality (of a person who wants recovery) is one that will do whatever it takes to be rid of the eating disorder. The mentality is one of determination, desire, and hope.

We may not all be pillars of strength—especially in our own minds—but that doesn't mean we don't have the drive and determination to get better. If you have the real desire to truly recover, it's within your reach. And if you have the hope that it can and will happen, it's waiting for you. Understand that first and foremost, and you have taken the first step. It's a mental step, sure, but it's a significant step.

If you try to walk up the steps and the first step at the bottom is missing, you're going to trip…or worse—you're going to slip right on through and fall harder.

Mold your mentality first. Understand that you can do it. Don't try, yet still in your heart of hearts think it's impossible. You won't get anywhere that way. You'll keep hitting road blocks.

That's not to say that a path of recovery is without obstacles just because you have the right mentality. The path of recovery is going to be a difficult one no matter what, but that doesn't mean you can't travel it—it just means you have to be prepared.

And you know what happens when you manage to get to the end of a long and rocky road: the reward is that much sweeter.


Melissa said...

Beautifully written! Right on the mark. Lovely!


Arielle Bair (Becker) said...

Thanks, Melissa. And thanks for stopping by!

Much love,

Michelle said...

This post re-reminded me of why I chose to start recovery in June... and after falling hard over the last few weeks, it prompted me to list out my goals of what life without an eating disorder means to me. I also called my nutritionist up to help me get back on track. I am glad you are back to posting frequently. Thank Arielle for your heart spoken words of clarity and inspiration.

Warmly and grateful,

Arielle Bair (Becker) said...

Michelle, thank you for leaving this comment. I'm so glad you're reading and so glad it helped in some way. :) And yes, I'm definitely back to posting frequently!

Much love,