Thursday, March 19, 2009

The Heart of the Matter

Why can't the body you have be right? Why isn't your body right?

You might say:

Because it's too fat.


Because it's too ugly.

You might say:

Because it's too short.


Because it's too disproportionate.

You might say:

Because it's too flabby.


Because it's too scrawny.

But what you really mean is:

Because it's mine.

I mean, think about that for a solid minute. It's true, isn't it? The reason you really hate your body isn't because it's too this or too that or not enough this or not enough that. Because, let's face it, you're a lot more forgiving of all those things when you see them somewhere else besides on YOU.

You hate your body because it's yours. Get to the heart of the matter. You have to go within to channel your hate into something positive. Changing what you dislike about your body isn't really the way to stop hating it.

Ask. Answer.
Why can't the body you have be right?
Why isn't your body right?

Because it's mine.

So, what are you going to do about it?


Gayle said...

Brilliant post. Definitely something to think about . . .

Kaz said...

Oh Arielle! Wonderful post! <3

Christina said...

oh dear. My first reaction after nodding along to some of the "you might say" and then reading the end and immediately my brain said, but...but...yes, if I change my body, I won't hate it, therefore one less struggle. Your statement/challenge made me super uncomfortable. In a - oh shit, she's right but I'm going to cover up that with ed thoughts until I can face that challenge w/o overwhelming the ed. Something to bring with me next week in therapy.