Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Day #15: A Letter to Little Me

I actually shared this EXACT post on my own a couple of months ago during Eating Disorder Awareness Week, because it's an idea I always promote. Check it out here in my post "Invest in You" (for an extra photo, haha) & also below.


Arielle,

Don't be afraid. I'll carry you quietly, because you need complete and unconditional love--and my arms will be full of enough understanding that I won't have to use words.

I'll show you what it is to live for you and not for others and what they say and do. I'll let you cry when you need to without feeling ashamed and I'll comfort you like a blanket that soothes all your troubles, worries, and aching limbs. I'll let you stretch into a woman and prove to you how great it can be when you accept yourself and all the changes that go along with being you.

I'll travel great distances to listen to what you have to say. I'll never make you feel alone, unwanted, slighted, or misunderstood. I'll let you be mature when you want to be and I'll let you be a child when it helps you to heal. I'll make promises and I won't break them.

I'll brush your hair. I'll rub your back. I'll sing you songs. I'll nourish you. I won't suppress you--or second-guess you--or leave you. I am invested in you.

You are important to me...because you are me.

Love, Arielle 


I share this so that you can see how genuine and real and comforting it can be. I share this so that when I invite you to write a similar letter to yourself as a child, you'll know I walk the talk. Will writing a letter to yourself as a child heal all your pain? No. Will it be that magic recipe that sends that eating disorder packing for good? Probably not. But will it help? I hope so. It certainly can't hurt.

So, your mission - if you choose to accept it - is to find a photo of yourself as a child. Happy, sad, lonely, sweet, funny, silly, whatever it is! And look into that little face. And with it next to you, grab a piece of paper and write to YOU. Or prop it in front of your computer and start typing... and write to YOU. The little you.

Why? Because it can be hard to write loving things to the adult you, the current you. (It shouldn't be! But it often is!) But it's very VERY hard to write mean, self-hating, disappointed things to a child - even when that child is you.

Give that child what it needs. Say what you need to say. Say what you need to hear. Be real. Be genuine. Be loving.

5 comments:

tess said...

such a sweet photo of you. the message you wrote at the end of this post is very meaningful, how it can be hard to love the adult you and so much easier to love the child you. <3

C-Girl said...

I absolutely love this idea of writing a letter to your little self… I am going to do this for my journaling tomorrow. Its almost like releasing everything that you may have regret not understanding long ago and appreciating that you understand it now. What a wonderful passage to maybe share with a daughter one day… so that she can possibly gain this knowledge before the world takes her by storm :) Thank you so much for this idea and sweet, genuine post.

Jenn said...

i really love your letter ; ) and that picture of you is so cute!

brie said...

Dear Little Arielle,

I think you are really neat. And I think Grown Up A is pretty terrific too.

Love,
Brie

Fancy Free said...

Beautiful!